Literary Discussion

Sharing Novels: Literary Discussion

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Hey Bibliomaniacs,

This a topic that I love to discuss with other book lovers, because we all have such different opinions, how do you feel about lending your books?

Personally, I am not a fan of lending my books to people. If I lend you a book than it means I trust you with my life. And before, I am called selfish for not being  fan of sharing my books, let me explain to you my reasons as to why I don’t like lending people my books.

  1. I have a hard time parting with my books. Lots of anxieties come up, for example will my book come back  with every other page dog eared. As someone who spends loads of money on physical copies of books, I like to keep them in great condition and I personally don’t dog ear my pages because it ruins the book, and essentially don’t want to get my book back ruined.
  2. Secondly, I have a true worry about NEVER getting my books back. I feel like this is a really reasonable worry considering I have had to re-buy certain books, especially if they are part of a series after someone borrowed one from me and I never got it back.
  3. I also worry about people eating  while having my books, I know that I am one of those people that eats while reading and when I get ketchup on my book, yes I become upset and feel the need to go out and buy a new copy. But, its not as upsetting when you as the owner gets food on a book rather then when someone who you lent it too gets food on your books.
  4. WATER DAMAGE: yes, thats a thing. Now, lets be real who hasn’t accidentally dropped a book in the bath. I know I have. But, when it comes to lending out a book and the renter gets water damage on it, that makes me all sorts of sad.

Now, if you are the renter you are saving money.

However, I am one of those renters that has a hard time parting with books, and therefore don’t use my public library as much or other peoples libraries to borrow books because frankly I don’t want to part with books. Which is the main reason that I purchase my books. It also causes me anxiety knowing that I need to read a book in a timely manner to give it back, and then I get the feeling of guilt if I am not able to read the book fast enough. Therefore, I don’t really rent books, or borrow them from friends I would rather purchase my own copy.

How do you feel about renting/borrowing books? Leave a comment down below and jump into the discussion.

One Love,

Rina

 

Book Discussion

Book Discussion: Grey by E.L. James (Spoilers)

Grey, by GREYE.L. James took me off guard. It immediately sucked me into the story, mostly because I wanted to know more about Christian’s past. He was such a complex character and I couldn’t help but want to try to piece together why he acted the way he did. I will admit it did take me a while to get used to the pace of the book and the writing. I had so many emotions going through my mind while I was reading this book, from sympathy to anger, to sadness and happiness this book did it all for me.

This book was the retelling of “50 Shades of Grey,” from Christian’s perspective. He had a very interesting personality. He was a character who liked to be in control. Although, when I first read “50 Shades of Grey”, I didn’t have a clear understanding as to why he did things he did. I didn’t understand his need for control and at times from Ana’s point of view I found it a little shocking and sometimes felt uncomfortable with the amount of aggression that he showed toward her. But, getting to experience this story from Christian’s point of view gave me a clearer understanding to why he had the need for control and why he wanted women to submit to him. From a psychological view, Christian suffered from insecure attachment and passive parenting  as a child. This would explain why he would have a need for control. The insecure attachment made him want to chose who would be able to get close to him and who wouldn’t. This also allowed him to cut people out of his life as quickly as they came, which would explain why there several other submissive’s before Ana. The passive parenting, had an influence on him too. As a teen he seeked love from where he could find. He found affection from Elena, aka Mrs. Robinson. As a child of insecure attachment and submissive parenting it would make sense that he would accept any sign of affection towards him.  The fact that he was made into a submissive at an early age also, had an affect on his want for control because he didn’t want to feel vulnerable as he had as a submissive, therefore as a dominant he was able to be in control of the situation.

When Christian met Ana, he was taken out of his element. He and Ana’s had many firsts together- from Christian, taking Ana on a ride on the Charlie Tango to having a female sleep in his bed without any sexual interaction. Through out the book Christian fought the idea of being touched by Ana, which could be influenced by the abuse he endeared as a child from his mother’s acquaintances as well as the gain of control he possessed after he no longer was in the position of a submissive. There was a lot of trust building throughout the novel, which allowed Christian to unlock some barriers in himself in order to allow Ana to touch him.  He also came to terms with the idea of falling in love with Ana wasn’t as improbable as he imagined.

The book was a page turner. The story was told completely from Christian’s point of view with occasional flashbacks to his childhood. I really enjoyed seeing how Christian’s childhood effected his life as an adult. One thing that really stood out to me was that Christian worked really hard to improve the quality and quantity of food for those that were living in poverty because of the lack of that he had as child. Something else that also caught my attention his will of compromising with Ana, to create a relationship that wasn’t just based on sex as he was used too.  Ana, took him out of his element and turned his world upside down.

The ending was a cliff hanger, I would love to see the rest of the “50 shades of Grey Series” unfold in Christians point of view.